The Adventures of “Mommy Guilt”
When I was pregnant with my first child, LV, I was so excited. Friends told me how awesome life would be as a Mother. I have always wanted to be a Mother. I have raised other family’s children and now it was time for me to give birth to and raise my own. When Leighton was born I was ecstatic. It is amazing how much you can love your own child. It was 22 months later that I gave birth to my son, Caden who completed our perfect family of four.
No one was out numbed, two boys..two girls! However, what no one tells you is the amount of GUILT you feel as a Mommy (I’m assuming Dads may feel this way too). Having to work full-time putting in 110% everyday, attend to the home, and dropping the kids off at daycare and picking them up is exhausting to say the least. The frustrating part is that I only have about an hour and a half a night with my kids.
That hour and a half flies by as I have to unpack from the day, prepare and pack for the next day and play with my children.
As a parent you have so many responsibilities. Not only must you love and care for your children, but also your Husband who also puts in 110%. Many parents forget to take care of themselves and this is essential.
Personally, I would much rather play and snuggle with my children. Since I am pretty bored (LOL) I decided to sign up and run a marathon as this is one of the to do’s on my bucket list.
Those who have run marathons or competed in any physical and mentally challenging event know significant time has to go into training. You can’t buy time and time is almost impossible to find these days. I try to get up early on the weekends around 5-6 AM to get in a long run. I get home, hoping the children will still be sleeping and I find they are already up. I feel guilty because once again I wasn’t there with them when I could have been. I want to be there to take my children out of their cribs. Moreover, on Fridays they are home with their Nanna and Buppa and it is when I leave at the crack of dawn on Friday morning that I feel that guilt.
I feel guilty cleaning a dish because I feel I can be and should be attending to them. I feel guilty taking time to do anything because I feel it takes time away from them! I feel guilty writing this post because I should be vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom, filling in Caden’s Baby Book, and so on… while they are napping.
When all I really want to do is take a NAP!
I know this period in my parenting life is going to fly by. I can already see it happening! I know as parents we need to take care of ourselves (yeah yeah yeah), but it is always so hard to find and maintain a balanced family life.
We have to pay attention to our children, husbands, wives and our own conscience.
Parenting is a learning experience. As parents we learn more about ourselves and what we are capable of.
What is a balanced life and how do we achieve this. Should we as parents feel guilty in these situations?